Kiana’s Article On The Ugliness Of Ungratefulness

November 29, 2013


Below is an article that Kiana (my brother’s daughter) wrote for her public high school English assignment due 11/20/13.  She read it aloud to our family yesterday and we all thought it was excellent.  The teacher had told the students to write about one of their “pet peeves”, and I found it very interesting that Kiana wrote about feeling peeved about the widespread attitude of ungratefulness in our society.  I have been of the same opinion as her.  Ungratefulness is truly debilitating for living out a contented, happy, and even successful life.  It sure would be wonderful if everyone decided that gratefulness, instead of the opposite, was the way to think, speak, and act.

Here is Kiana’s insightful article:

What Bothers Me Most

There are many ways to how an individual may not appreciate specific actions done or said by others. For me, I struggle with being graceful and nonjudgmental when hearing about complaints about how someone may not have to best products or even just hearing how their life is awful.

I struggle and often try to keep a distance from people who are ungrateful. When did all the negativity become the center of attention of how awful someone’s life is? The negativity that is focused on when people draw attention to what they don’t have is unrealistic. The truth is, no one is ever going to be satisfied if they compare themselves to people who have more. Whether you are the father who never takes work off just for more money, the student who always has to have the best grade, or the child who never can get enough gifts on their birthday, you most likely have become blinded by what you feel you need. You probably think that what you have is not enough.

Many classmates of mine complain about how their parents didn’t buy them the latest gadget, vehicle, or just didn’t do exactly what they asked for. I really dislike hearing these complaints, explaining why they are upset. It’s sad to say, but my classmates have taken the idea that everything they have is just basic and they need more. These “essentials” can be divided up into either needs or privileges, although many fail to think that way. There is no question to if they should have received less, they truly believe they deserve better.

I believe that living a thankful life can be one of the most beneficial choices for the individual who chooses to and can also benefit the people who are around them. When someone is truly grateful, they can look at what they have, even in a difficult situation, and be happy with it. They don’t think of what they wish they had, they have enough and it doesn’t affect their outlook.

I know individuals at school who walk or ride the bus to school every day. To some classmates of mine, for them to be walking to school or using public transportation is unheard of. They believe they are above others and yet they often complain about how their car isn’t good enough. Honestly the classmates who have privileges such as these are so blinded by ungratefulness that they are unable to see all the good things they do have. In these cases, the students who may not have such privileges, probably feel attacked and hurt because they cannot afford a car. Through showing gratitude and being thankful, people who have less will not feel shamed or judged. They will be able to see through a positive perspective rather than a negative.

In the 2nd grade I traveled to the Philippines with my parents. My father’s family had spent many years in a tropical jungle area on the coast. They spent so much money on helping these tribal people with getting medial help, assisting them with living, and maintaining a healthy diet. When I took the trip, I met kids who were my age that wore old passed down clothing and often never even knew if they would get food on a daily basis. These kids were not scared or worried about problems; they had grown up this way. Now when I look back at the pictures, the clearest difference between those kids and my peers is the attitude they had. The children who live in that area never complained about having the latest video game or why their mom didn’t pick them up on time. They had actual struggles but did not complain.

My peers never have experienced starvation or seen their baby sister die because of limited medical help. My peers have first world problems, yet they still are ungrateful in many circumstances. This is a clear example of what people have bought into. They have so much, but they can’t even think of all the blessings that are in their life. Instead they look at others who have more and complain about not having better things.

Whether someone may not have the latest cellphone or have not yet reached the ideal “American dream” they struggle with not being satisfied, because they don’t see the whole picture. People everywhere have bought into the idea that what they have is not enough, and that they need more.  Many individuals only see their self-interests and concerns while comparing their life to others who have more, and then they develop reasons to why they need better.

The best way to overcome this negativity is by not comparing a person’s life to others who have better, but by looking at people who have no hope and instead realizing how much they actually have. This not only helps someone to be thankful, but it helps them to encourage people around them to see all they are blessed with.

kiana and agta girl

kiana and agta girl











This is me and one of the girls I met while in the Philippines. She died within the year after I visited.


I hope this article will get passed on to many people, particularly high schoolers.

with love,


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